As your family celebrates you, those doubts still exist: How am I doing well at work? Is everyone thriving at home?
Let’s trade that thinking for a more productive question:
How can I give myself permission to live more fearlessly?
We know our insecurities get in the way of living our most fulfilled lives. We all have to work around our fears. We need new patterns.
So, working moms (and dads!), feel free to use any of the following permission slips as needed and as often as necessary—not just on Mother’s Day!
1. Permission slip to lower expectations.
To me/my family/boss/: Remember that big plan or project we had? I’m committing myself to doing my best without stressing out about every single last detail. Imperfections are inevitable, after all. I am embracing the moment and possibilities without trying to control the outcome.
2. Permission slip for ‘me time.’
To me/my family/boss/client: I will not be going home the usual way today or arriving at the regular time. I will be ___________, which is one of my favorite ways to decompress. Thank you for supporting this investment in my best self.
3. Permission slip to skip the guilt.
To myself: Starting on (date/time) and continuing until (date/time), I will put aside all “shoulds.” I will banish thoughts of the unmet needs of others, knowing that I am only one person who can only do one thing at a time. No room to be weighed down by all the “shoulds”—and no apologies.
4. Permission slip to go first.
To myself and the people who most depend on me: When life gets turbulent, I give myself permission to put on my oxygen mask before I help anyone else. I have to take care of myself first! I need to breathe—to collect myself and focus—or I can’t help anyone who needs me.
5. Permission slip to ask for help.
To me/my significant other/support network: As much as I like being the go-to person that gets stuff done, someone else needs to ______________ because that’s not something I can take on right now. I’ll back away slowly, knowing someone else will have a chance to step up.
6. Permission slip for crisis management.
To myself and others as needed: When I experience a test of my personal emergency broadcast system, I give myself permission to know this is only a test. One of many that I have confronted and solved to the best of my abilities. And that stress is good and increases capacity for the future.
7. Permission slip to say no.
To myself/friend/family/colleagues: As much as I enjoy _____, I have taken a inventory of my schedule and priorities. I’m giving myself permission to not participate in ___________. To say yes to what is in line with my true purpose, I’m letting myself say no to this, and I trust you will understand.
Your Game Changer Takeaway
To live more fearlessly and authentically, sometimes we just need new self-talk and ways to communicate what we want and need. What do you need and how can you give it to yourself? What permission slip will you give yourself today?
Molly Fletcher helps inspire and equip game changers to dream, live and grow fearlessly. A keynote speaker and author, Molly draws on her decades of experiences working with elite athletes and coaches as a sports agent, and applies them to the business world. Her e-learning courses spark both personal growth for individuals and corporate development for organizations. Sign up here to receive our monthly newsletter.