What if everything you’ve been taught about resilience is wrong? We’ve been told it’s the secret to navigating life’s toughest moments, but what if that belief is actually holding us back? Organizational psychologist and Shatterproof author Dr. Tasha Eurich shares groundbreaking research that challenges how high achievers handle adversity. In this conversation, we unpack the three biggest myths about resilience, how to spot “grit gaslighting,” and what to do instead when pushing harder stops working. Whether you’re battling burnout, workplace pressure, or personal challenges, Tasha offers practical tools to help you stay grounded and thrive in a world of chaos.

Show Notes

• Resilience doesn’t actually predict whether you can thrive in chaos (2:01)
• Myth 1: Resilience helps us become better and stronger. (5:21)
• Myth 2: Resilience is a choice (7:08)
• Grit gaslighting happens when we invalidate real stress by blaming ourselves for not being resilient enough (9:53)
• Myth 3: What doesn’t kill us makes us stronger (11:06)
• The 3 clues that you are hitting your resilience ceiling (16:52)
• What to do when your coping mechanisms stop working (20:37)
• The importance of a needs-based framework (26:02)
• When you’re burned out, identify which of your three core needs (confidence, choice, or connection) is depleted and take a small action to restore it (28:13)
• The reflective best self exercise (32:18)
• How much of your life is being driven by “must-ivation” for motivation? (34:44)
• Instead of telling teams to “be more resilient, leaders should focus on meeting their people’s core nees: confidence, choice and connection. Are you a need-fueling or need-frustrating leader? (36:52)

 Resources / People Mentioned

• Shatterproof by Dr. Tasha Eurich
• Grit by Angela Duckworth
• The Great Gatsby by F. Scott Fitzgerald
• Team of Rivals by Doris Kearns Goodwin
• Rise Above by Scott Barry Kaufman
• Marshall Goldsmith
• What Got You Here Won’t Get You There by Marshall Goldsmith

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