Priya Parker is helping us take a deeper look at how anyone can create collective meaning, one gathering at a time. Priya is a conflict resolution facilitator, author of The Art of Gathering, and host of the podcast Together Apart. In our conversation, Priya shares how to turn everyday gatherings into transformative group experiences. She shares what works, what doesn’t, and why. At a time when coming together is more important than ever, this conversation will have you reimagining the way you gather—whether it be in person or virtually. And you’ll never be able to look at your next gathering the same way again!
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Show Notes
- How Priya’s diverse family background and background as a conflict resolution facilitator shapes her work (2:31)
- Why our gatherings tend to be boring and repetitive (8:35)
- How to create gatherings that are transformative (10:49)
- The three key ingredients to create purpose in your gathering: 1) know the purpose and share it with people; 2) connect them to that purpose; 3) connect them to each other (15:22)
- How leaders should think about meetings differently (18:01)
- Host better virtual meetings: 1) defend the purpose of your meeting 2) name your meeting 3) create norms around the mute button (21:17)
- Don’t get stuck to the “form” of a gathering (24:56)
- The “magic numbers” to help you decide how many people to invite (26:39)
- How to exclude with purpose (28:00)
- The best way to end your gatherings (32:54)
- How to introduce good controversy into your gathering (35:53)
- Four questions to ask if you want to introduce healthy conflict (39:47)
- Don’t abdicate your power as a guest (42:36)
- An example from Priya’s own life of a reimagined gathering (45:37)
- Priya’s new podcast, Together Apart
Resources / People Mentioned
- The Art of Gathering by Priya Parker
- TED Talk: 3 steps to turn everyday get-togethers into transformative gatherings by Priya Parker
- Together Apart (podcast)
- Abandon Your Thanksgiving Script by Priya Parker
- Ida Bemedetto, experience designer
- Neapolitan Novels by Elena Ferrante
- TED Talk: The price of shame by Monica Lewinsky
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