Episode 182- Dr. Michael Gervais on How to Stop Worrying about What People Think of You

Is your fear of other people’s opinions holding you back from fulfilling your potential? Dr. Michael Gervais is one of the world’s top high-performance psychologists…

Episode 182- Dr. Michael Gervais on How to Stop Worrying about What People Think of You

Is your fear of other people’s opinions holding you back from fulfilling your potential? Dr. Michael Gervais is one of the world’s top high-performance psychologists…

Is your fear of other people’s opinions holding you back from fulfilling your potential? Dr. Michael Gervais is one of the world’s top high-performance psychologists and leading experts on the relationship between the mind and human performance. He has spent his career helping the best of the best when they need to achieve the extraordinary. His clients include world record holders, Olympians, internationally acclaimed artists and musicians, MVPs from every major sport and Fortune 100 CEOs. In his new book, The First Rule of Mastery, Dr. Gervais shares a guide for overcoming what may be the single greatest constrictor of human potential: our fear of people’s opinions. In our conversation today, we talk about the science of peak performance, how to stop worrying about what people think of you, and live life on your own terms.

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Show Notes

How his own performance anxiety inspired him to study psychology (2:01)
The psychology of excellence (6:10)
His work with the NFL’s Seattle Seahawks (8:09)
The one thing all high performers do that’s fundamentally different (10:53)
Pushing yourself to “the messy edge” (12:30)
Why people play it safe and play it small (18:49)
How high performers silence the external noise (19:36)
Surround yourself with people who want to see you grow (21:27)
Common examples of FOPO (28:27)
Where FOPO originates (31:08)
The cost of FOPO- the fear of other people’s opinions (35:09)
Transforming workplace cultures through mindset training (38:11)
The spotlight effect: We dramatically overestimate how much people think about us (40:58)
The dangers of a performance-based identity (45:25)
Purpose-based identity (47:59)
Invest in knowing yourself so you can move from clarity to conviction (50:20)

Resources / People Mentioned

The First Rule of Mastery by Michael Gervais
Finding Mastery (podcast)
Seattle Seahawks
HBR: How to Stop Worrying About What Other People Think of You
Red Bull
Satya Nadella, Microsoft
Thomas Gilovich
The spotlight effect
Get Finding Mastery’s Morning Mindset Routine PDF
Get the Morning Mindset Routine audio guide

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