fbpx

Get inspiration straight to your inbox.

Subscribe Now

Episode 167- Eve Rodsky on The Hidden Costs of Doing It All

April 13, 2023 • Book Club
Eve Rodsky

What if you treated your home as your most important organization? Frustrated by all the unpaid, invisible work she was doing for her family—and recognizing she wasn’t alone—Eve Rodksy set out to change society one partnership at a time. In her bestselling book Fair Play, Eve applies her Harvard-trained background in organizational management to create a system that helps partners rebalance their domestic workload and reimagine their relationship. On this episode, we explore the hidden costs of doing it all, and how to rebalance our home life through boundaries, systems and communication.

Follow Eve: Twitter | Facebook | Instagram

“Treat your home like your most important organization.”

Click To Tweet

Show Notes

  • Becoming the “she-fault” parent (2:06)
  • Applying a behavior design lens to the home (7:57)
  • The secret formula: boundaries, systems and communication (10:15)
  • Making the invisible work visible (12:14)
  • “How does mustard get in your refrigerator?” (14:38)
  • Ownership mindset of tasks (conception, planning, execution) creates fairness (16:35)
  • All time is created equal (20:40)
  • How to initiate a conversation about fair play (23:16)
  • Four ways that women devalue their own time (26:57)
  • Make daily communication with your partner a practice (28:55)
  • How to move beyond lists and scorekeeping to true partnership (30:36)
  • How the pandemic has changed the conversation around invisible work (36:08)
  • Taking this conversation to the policy level (37:44)
  • The impact on women’s physical health (38:33)
  • Where is burnout originating for women? (41:37)
  • Finding your “unicorn space” (43:16)

Resources / People Mentioned

Recommended For You

Did you enjoy this episode? Then listen to:

 

Thanks for checking out Game Changers with Molly Fletcher. Be sure to subscribe on Apple Podcasts or your favorite podcast app and leave a rating or review.

204 thoughts on “Episode 167- Eve Rodsky on The Hidden Costs of Doing It All”

  1. Thanks , I’ve just been looking for information about this subject for ages and yours is the greatest I’ve discovered so far. But, what about the bottom line? Are you sure about the source?

  5. I believe this site has some rattling good info for everyone :D. “Nothing surely is so disgraceful to society and to individuals as unmeaning wastefulness.” by Count Benjamin Thompson Rumford.

  8. I’m really enjoying the design and layout of your blog. It’s a very easy on the eyes which makes it much more pleasant for me to come here and visit more often. Did you hire out a developer to create your theme? Fantastic work!

  9. Please let me know if you’re looking for a author for your site. You have some really good posts and I believe I would be a good asset. If you ever want to take some of the load off, I’d love to write some content for your blog in exchange for a link back to mine. Please send me an e-mail if interested. Many thanks!

  11. Hi there! This post couldn’t be written any better! Reading through this post reminds me of my previous room mate! He always kept talking about this. I will forward this article to him. Pretty sure he will have a good read. Thank you for sharing!

  12. Hello There. I discovered your weblog the use of msn. This is a very well written article. I’ll make sure to bookmark it and come back to read more of your useful information. Thank you for the post. I’ll definitely return.

  13. Wonderful work! This is the type of information that should be shared around the web. Shame on Google for not positioning this post higher! Come on over and visit my website . Thanks =)

  14. Howdy just wanted to give you a quick heads up and let you know a few of the images aren’t loading properly. I’m not sure why but I think its a linking issue. I’ve tried it in two different browsers and both show the same results.

  15. This website is known as a walk-via for all the information you needed about this and didn’t know who to ask. Glimpse right here, and you’ll positively discover it.

  16. Hello! I could have sworn I’ve been to this blog before but after browsing through some of the post I realized it’s new to me. Anyways, I’m definitely happy I found it and I’ll be book-marking and checking back frequently!

  18. It’s a shame you don’t have a donate button! I’d most certainly donate to this outstanding blog! I guess for now i’ll settle for book-marking and adding your RSS feed to my Google account. I look forward to brand new updates and will talk about this site with my Facebook group. Talk soon!

  20. I know this if off topic but I’m looking into starting my own weblog and was wondering what all is needed to get set up? I’m assuming having a blog like yours would cost a pretty penny? I’m not very web savvy so I’m not 100 sure. Any tips or advice would be greatly appreciated. Appreciate it

  22. Heya i’m for the first time here. I found this board and I find It really useful & it helped me out much. I hope to give something back and aid others like you helped me.

  25. What’s Going down i am new to this, I stumbled upon this I have found It positively useful and it has aided me out loads. I’m hoping to contribute & aid other users like its aided me. Good job.

  26. Woah! I’m really enjoying the template/theme of this site. It’s simple, yet effective. A lot of times it’s tough to get that “perfect balance” between superb usability and visual appeal. I must say you have done a superb job with this. Additionally, the blog loads extremely fast for me on Safari. Outstanding Blog!

  27. I like what you guys are up too. Such clever work and reporting! Carry on the excellent works guys I¦ve incorporated you guys to my blogroll. I think it will improve the value of my website 🙂

  28. Hey, I think your site might be having browser compatibility issues. When I look at your website in Ie, it looks fine but when opening in Internet Explorer, it has some overlapping. I just wanted to give you a quick heads up! Other then that, wonderful blog!

  31. Hi there would you mind letting me know which webhost you’re using? I’ve loaded your blog in 3 different web browsers and I must say this blog loads a lot quicker then most. Can you recommend a good hosting provider at a honest price? Cheers, I appreciate it!

  36. Having read this I thought it was very informative. I appreciate you taking the time and effort to put this article together. I once again find myself spending way to much time both reading and commenting. But so what, it was still worth it!

  37. Fantastic beat ! I would like to apprentice while you amend your site, how can i subscribe for a blog web site? The account aided me a acceptable deal. I had been tiny bit acquainted of this your broadcast offered bright clear idea

  38. I’ve recently started a web site, the info you offer on this web site has helped me greatly. Thanks for all of your time & work. “Her grandmother, as she gets older, is not fading but rather becoming more concentrated.” by Paulette Bates Alden.

  39. Howdy very cool site!! Guy .. Excellent .. Amazing .. I will bookmark your website and take the feeds additionally…I’m glad to find so many helpful info right here within the submit, we’d like develop extra strategies in this regard, thank you for sharing.

  42. I do not even know how I ended up here, but I thought this post was good. I do not know who you are but definitely you are going to a famous blogger if you aren’t already 😉 Cheers!

  43. Thank you for sharing excellent informations. Your site is so cool. I am impressed by the details that you have on this site. It reveals how nicely you perceive this subject. Bookmarked this website page, will come back for extra articles. You, my pal, ROCK! I found just the information I already searched all over the place and simply couldn’t come across. What a perfect web site.

  46. Hi there would you mind stating which blog platform you’re working with? I’m looking to start my own blog soon but I’m having a difficult time making a decision between BlogEngine/Wordpress/B2evolution and Drupal. The reason I ask is because your design seems different then most blogs and I’m looking for something completely unique. P.S Apologies for getting off-topic but I had to ask!

  48. Hi there very nice site!! Man .. Excellent .. Superb .. I’ll bookmark your site and take the feeds additionallyKI’m happy to search out a lot of useful info right here within the put up, we want work out more techniques in this regard, thanks for sharing. . . . . .

  53. We have sell some products of different custom boxes.it is very useful and very low price please visits this site thanks and please share this post with your friends.

  55. Excellent read, I just passed this onto a colleague who was doing some research on that. And he actually bought me lunch since I found it for him smile Thus let me rephrase that: Thanks for lunch! “Feeling passionate about something is like getting a peak at your soul smiling back at you.” by Amanda Medinger.

  57. Hi there! This is my first visit to your blog! We are a group of volunteers and starting a new initiative in a community in the same niche. Your blog provided us valuable information to work on. You have done a outstanding job!

  62. Excellent site. Plenty of useful information here. I’m sending it to a few friends ans also sharing in delicious. And of course, thanks for your effort!

  66. I would like to thnkx for the efforts you have put in writing this blog. I am hoping the same high-grade blog post from you in the upcoming as well. In fact your creative writing abilities has inspired me to get my own blog now. Really the blogging is spreading its wings quickly. Your write up is a good example of it.

  67. Can I just say what a relief to find someone who actually knows what theyre talking about on the internet. You definitely know how to bring an issue to light and make it important. More people need to read this and understand this side of the story. I cant believe youre not more popular because you definitely have the gift.

  71. We have sell some products of different custom boxes.it is very useful and very low price please visits this site thanks and please share this post with your friends. techlevelnewz

  72. Very interesting subject, thankyou for posting. “All human beings should try to learn before they die what they are running from, and to, and why.” by James Thurber.

  77. An impressive share, I simply given this onto a colleague who was doing somewhat analysis on this. And he in truth bought me breakfast as a result of I found it for him.. smile. So let me reword that: Thnx for the deal with! But yeah Thnkx for spending the time to discuss this, I really feel strongly about it and love studying more on this topic. If attainable, as you change into expertise, would you mind updating your blog with extra details? It is highly helpful for me. Big thumb up for this blog put up!

  80. Very nice post. I simply stumbled upon your weblog and wanted to mention that I have really loved surfing around your blog posts. After all I will be subscribing to your feed and I hope you write again soon!

  82. I will immediately snatch your rss feed as I can not in finding your e-mail subscription hyperlink or e-newsletter service. Do you’ve any? Kindly let me recognise so that I could subscribe. Thanks.

  83. Hey there just wanted to give you a quick heads up. The text in your article seem to be running off the screen in Opera. I’m not sure if this is a format issue or something to do with internet browser compatibility but I thought I’d post to let you know. The style and design look great though! Hope you get the issue resolved soon. Thanks

  85. Hi, Neat post. There is a problem with your website in internet explorer, would test this… IE still is the market leader and a huge portion of people will miss your great writing due to this problem.

  86. This design is incredible! You definitely know how to keep a reader amused. Between your wit and your videos, I was almost moved to start my own blog (well, almost…HaHa!) Wonderful job. I really enjoyed what you had to say, and more than that, how you presented it. Too cool!

  87. This is very interesting, You are a very skilled blogger. I’ve joined your feed and look forward to seeking more of your fantastic post. Also, I have shared your site in my social networks!

  92. Hey just wanted to give you a quick heads up. The text in your content seem to be running off the screen in Ie. I’m not sure if this is a formatting issue or something to do with browser compatibility but I figured I’d post to let you know. The style and design look great though! Hope you get the issue fixed soon. Many thanks

  94. This is the right blog for anyone who wants to find out about this topic. You realize so much its almost hard to argue with you (not that I actually would want…HaHa). You definitely put a new spin on a topic thats been written about for years. Great stuff, just great!

  97. hi!,I really like your writing very much! percentage we communicate extra approximately your article on AOL? I need a specialist on this space to solve my problem. May be that’s you! Having a look ahead to look you.

  98. naturally like your web-site but you have to check the spelling on several of your posts. Several of them are rife with spelling issues and I find it very bothersome to tell the truth nevertheless I’ll surely come back again.

  99. I’m impressed, I have to say. Really rarely do I encounter a weblog that’s each educative and entertaining, and let me inform you, you’ve hit the nail on the head. Your thought is outstanding; the difficulty is something that not enough persons are talking intelligently about. I’m very joyful that I stumbled throughout this in my search for one thing referring to this.

  100. Awesome blog you have here but I was curious about if you knew of any forums that cover the same topics talked about here? I’d really love to be a part of group where I can get comments from other experienced individuals that share the same interest. If you have any recommendations, please let me know. Thanks a lot!

  102. Magnificent web site. A lot of helpful info here. I am sending it to several buddies ans also sharing in delicious. And obviously, thank you for your sweat!

  103. Hello There. I discovered your blog the use of msn. This is an extremely neatly written article. I’ll make sure to bookmark it and come back to learn more of your useful information. Thank you for the post. I will definitely return.

  104. What i don’t understood is if truth be told how you’re no longer actually a lot more neatly-favored than you may be right now. You are very intelligent. You know therefore significantly on the subject of this subject, made me individually consider it from a lot of varied angles. Its like women and men don’t seem to be interested until it is one thing to do with Girl gaga! Your personal stuffs great. All the time handle it up!

  105. Hi, Neat post. There’s a problem with your website in internet explorer, could test thisK IE still is the marketplace leader and a huge component of folks will pass over your magnificent writing due to this problem.

  106. Great – I should certainly pronounce, impressed with your site. I had no trouble navigating through all tabs and related information ended up being truly simple to do to access. I recently found what I hoped for before you know it in the least. Reasonably unusual. Is likely to appreciate it for those who add forums or something, website theme . a tones way for your client to communicate. Excellent task.

  107. Whats Taking place i’m new to this, I stumbled upon this I’ve found It absolutely helpful and it has helped me out loads. I’m hoping to give a contribution & help other users like its aided me. Good job.

  109. I conceive this site has some rattling good information for everyone :D. “When you get a thing the way you want it, leave it alone.” by Sir Winston Leonard Spenser Churchill.

  110. You can certainly see your skills within the work you write. The world hopes for more passionate writers such as you who are not afraid to mention how they believe. All the time follow your heart. “Experience is a good school, but the fees are high.” by Heinrich Heine.

  111. wonderful issues altogether, you simply gained a logo new reader. What may you recommend in regards to your put up that you just made some days ago? Any certain?

  113. I loved as much as you will receive carried out right here. The sketch is tasteful, your authored subject matter stylish. nonetheless, you command get got an shakiness over that you wish be delivering the following. unwell unquestionably come further formerly again since exactly the same nearly very often inside case you shield this increase.

  114. I’ve been surfing online more than 3 hours today, yet I never found any interesting article like yours. It’s pretty worth enough for me. In my view, if all web owners and bloggers made good content as you did, the internet will be a lot more useful than ever before.

  115. Hello there, I found your web site by the use of Google at the same time as searching for a related topic, your web site came up, it seems great. I’ve bookmarked it in my google bookmarks.

  116. Nice blog here! Also your site loads up fast! What web host are you using? Can I get your affiliate link to your host? I wish my website loaded up as fast as yours lol

  117. Howdy just wanted to give you a quick heads up. The words in your article seem to be running off the screen in Firefox. I’m not sure if this is a formatting issue or something to do with web browser compatibility but I figured I’d post to let you know. The style and design look great though! Hope you get the issue solved soon. Kudos

  118. I wanted to compose you one very little note just to say thanks a lot again over the striking principles you have shown in this case. It’s really tremendously open-handed of you to deliver unhampered all that many people would have marketed as an ebook to help make some dough for themselves, most importantly considering the fact that you could possibly have tried it if you desired. Those solutions in addition acted to become easy way to understand that some people have the same eagerness just as my own to understand whole lot more in respect of this problem. I think there are some more fun instances in the future for individuals that check out your blog post.

  120. Hello, you used to write fantastic, but the last several posts have been kinda boring… I miss your super writings. Past several posts are just a little out of track! come on!

  122. What i do not realize is actually how you are not really much more well-liked than you might be right now. You are so intelligent. You realize therefore considerably relating to this subject, produced me personally consider it from a lot of varied angles. Its like women and men aren’t fascinated unless it’s one thing to accomplish with Lady gaga! Your own stuffs excellent. Always maintain it up!

  123. I want to show appreciation to the writer just for bailing me out of such a situation. As a result of searching through the world wide web and obtaining suggestions which are not helpful, I assumed my life was well over. Living without the presence of strategies to the issues you have sorted out all through this posting is a crucial case, as well as the ones which may have in a negative way affected my career if I had not encountered your web blog. That knowledge and kindness in dealing with all things was vital. I am not sure what I would have done if I hadn’t come upon such a stuff like this. I can at this point look forward to my future. Thanks for your time so much for the specialized and sensible guide. I will not be reluctant to refer your site to anybody who will need recommendations on this area.

  124. I am extremely impressed together with your writing abilities as well as with the format to your weblog. Is this a paid subject or did you customize it yourself? Either way stay up the nice high quality writing, it is rare to see a great weblog like this one these days..

  125. Fabulous post, you have denoted out some fantastic points, I likewise think this s a very wonderful website. I will visit again for more quality contents and also, recommend this site to all. Thanks. Utdplug

  127. It’s in point of fact a nice and useful piece of info. I am happy that you just shared this helpful info with us. Please keep us informed like this. Thanks for sharing.

  128. Good ?V I should definitely pronounce, impressed with your website. I had no trouble navigating through all tabs and related info ended up being truly easy to do to access. I recently found what I hoped for before you know it in the least. Reasonably unusual. Is likely to appreciate it for those who add forums or something, web site theme . a tones way for your customer to communicate. Nice task..

  129. It’s actually a great and helpful piece of information. I’m satisfied that you simply shared this useful info with us. Please keep us informed like this. Thank you for sharing.

  131. Great work! This is the type of info that should be shared around the net. Shame on the search engines for not positioning this post higher! Come on over and visit my site . Thanks =)

  133. Thanx for the effort, keep up the good work Great work, I am going to start a small Blog Engine course work using your site I hope you enjoy blogging with the popular BlogEngine.net.Thethoughts you express are really awesome. Hope you will right some more posts.

  134. Wow that was unusual. I just wrote an extremely long comment but after I clicked submit my comment didn’t show up. Grrrr… well I’m not writing all that over again. Anyway, just wanted to say superb blog!

  139. Thanks for sharing excellent informations. Your site is very cool. I’m impressed by the details that you’ve on this site. It reveals how nicely you perceive this subject. Bookmarked this website page, will come back for more articles. You, my friend, ROCK! I found simply the information I already searched everywhere and just could not come across. What a great site.

  140. Write more, thats all I have to say. Literally, it seems as though you relied on the video to make your point. You definitely know what youre talking about, why throw away your intelligence on just posting videos to your blog when you could be giving us something informative to read?

  141. Good day very cool site!! Man .. Beautiful .. Superb .. I’ll bookmark your blog and take the feeds alsoKI’m satisfied to search out numerous useful info right here within the publish, we’d like work out extra strategies on this regard, thank you for sharing. . . . . .

  142. Travel Review Experts and recommendations is your ultimate resource for everything travel-related. Our expert guidance and recommendations are designed to help you create unforgettable experiences, no matter your budget or experience level.

  145. Somebody essentially help to make seriously articles I would state. This is the first time I frequented your web page and thus far? I amazed with the research you made to make this particular publish amazing. Wonderful job!

  148. Great beat ! I would like to apprentice while you amend your site, how can i subscribe for a blog web site? The account aided me a acceptable deal. I had been a little bit acquainted of this your broadcast offered bright clear idea

  149. I’m very happy to read this. This is the type of manual that needs to be given and not the accidental misinformation that’s at the other blogs. Appreciate your sharing this best doc.

  150. I simply needed to thank you so much once more. I’m not certain what I would have implemented without the type of hints contributed by you over such a topic. It seemed to be a distressing crisis in my view, but observing a new skilled manner you managed that forced me to leap over fulfillment. I’m thankful for your work and thus pray you really know what an amazing job that you’re carrying out educating the rest using your webblog. I know that you haven’t encountered all of us.

  151. I haven?¦t checked in here for some time as I thought it was getting boring, but the last several posts are good quality so I guess I will add you back to my everyday bloglist. You deserve it my friend 🙂

  152. There are some fascinating deadlines in this article however I don’t know if I see all of them heart to heart. There may be some validity but I’ll take hold opinion till I look into it further. Good article , thanks and we wish extra! Added to FeedBurner as well

  153. Some genuinely superb articles on this website, appreciate it for contribution. “Be absolutely determined to enjoy what you do.” by Sarah Knowles Bolton.

  155. VIRTUSIM is an OTP service provider for all applications that require verification. You don’t need to bother buying a new SIM card, we are always ready 30×24 hours for you. Everything is automatic.

  156. Great write-up, I am regular visitor of one?¦s website, maintain up the excellent operate, and It is going to be a regular visitor for a lengthy time.

  158. F*ckin¦ amazing issues here. I¦m very happy to peer your post. Thanks a lot and i’m taking a look ahead to contact you. Will you please drop me a e-mail?

  159. FemiPro is a dietary supplement formulated specifically for women, focusing on hormone balance, reproductive health, and overall well-being.

  160. Hey very nice blog!! Man .. Beautiful .. Superb .. I will bookmark your site and take the feeds additionally?KI am happy to find numerous helpful info right here in the submit, we want develop more strategies in this regard, thank you for sharing. . . . . .

  165. I was just seeking this info for some time. After six hours of continuous Googleing, at last I got it in your website. I wonder what’s the lack of Google strategy that don’t rank this type of informative websites in top of the list. Normally the top web sites are full of garbage.

  166. Thanks, I have recently been looking for information about this subject for ages and yours is the greatest I have found out so far. But, what concerning the conclusion? Are you positive about the source?

  169. What i do not realize is in fact how you’re now not really much more well-favored than you may be now. You’re so intelligent. You know thus considerably in relation to this subject, produced me individually believe it from so many varied angles. Its like men and women don’t seem to be involved until it¦s something to accomplish with Lady gaga! Your own stuffs nice. At all times maintain it up!

  171. Hey there! This is my first comment here so I just wanted to give a quick shout out and tell you I genuinely enjoy reading your posts. Can you recommend any other blogs/websites/forums that deal with the same topics? Thank you so much!

  173. The next time I read a blog, I hope that it doesnt disappoint me as much as this one. I mean, I know it was my choice to read, but I actually thought youd have something interesting to say. All I hear is a bunch of whining about something that you could fix if you werent too busy looking for attention.

  178. Hi, Neat post. There is an issue together with your web site in internet explorer, might test this?K IE nonetheless is the market leader and a big component to people will miss your wonderful writing due to this problem.

  179. My brother recommended I may like this blog. He was once totally right. This submit truly made my day. You can not imagine simply how so much time I had spent for this info! Thanks!

  183. Thank you for sharing excellent informations. Your site is so cool. I am impressed by the details that you¦ve on this site. It reveals how nicely you understand this subject. Bookmarked this web page, will come back for extra articles. You, my friend, ROCK! I found simply the information I already searched everywhere and just could not come across. What a great site.

  185. Thanks for sharing superb informations. Your web site is very cool. I’m impressed by the details that you’ve on this blog. It reveals how nicely you understand this subject. Bookmarked this web page, will come back for extra articles. You, my friend, ROCK! I found just the info I already searched all over the place and simply couldn’t come across. What an ideal website.

  188. Thank you for some other informative blog. Where else could I am getting that kind of information written in such an ideal method? I’ve a project that I’m simply now operating on, and I’ve been at the look out for such information.

  189. You actually make it seem so easy with your presentation however I to find this topic to be really something which I feel I would by no means understand. It seems too complicated and very large for me. I am having a look forward for your next post, I will try to get the cling of it!

  192. A formidable share, I simply given this onto a colleague who was doing a little bit evaluation on this. And he actually bought me breakfast because I discovered it for him.. smile. So let me reword that: Thnx for the deal with! But yeah Thnkx for spending the time to discuss this, I feel strongly about it and love reading extra on this topic. If attainable, as you change into experience, would you mind updating your weblog with more particulars? It’s highly helpful for me. Massive thumb up for this blog submit!

  193. I like what you guys are up also. Such intelligent work and reporting! Keep up the superb works guys I have incorporated you guys to my blogroll. I think it’ll improve the value of my site 🙂

  196. We have sell some products of different custom boxes.it is very useful and very low price please visits this site thanks and please share this post with your friends. Ny Tranding

  198. Wow! This can be one particular of the most helpful blogs We’ve ever arrive across on this subject. Actually Wonderful. I’m also an expert in this topic therefore I can understand your hard work.

  201. Hello! I could have sworn I’ve been to this blog before but after browsing through some of the post I realized it’s new to me. Anyways, I’m definitely happy I found it and I’ll be book-marking and checking back frequently!

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *