We all have stories we tell ourselves that define the way we live our lives. Stories help you make sense of your life, but they can also keep you stuck. How can you become the editor of your life? Therapist Lori Gottlieb is the author of the New York Timesbestseller Maybe You Should Talk to Someone and writes the Dear Therapistadvice column for The Atlantic. In this conversation, we talk about how to defeat toxic thinking, change our self-limiting narratives, and get unstuck. It’s about changing your narrative to change your life.
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Show Notes
- Why therapy isn’t just self-work (1:51)
- The biggest misconceptions about therapy (3:17)
- Part of therapy is getting to “unknow” yourself (4:47)
- Lori’s experience as a therapist going to therapy (5:43)
- The root of why people go to therapy (8:35)
- What happens when we avoid feeling (11:07)
- “We are all unreliable narrators of our own lives.” (13:47)
- The difference between “idiot compassion” vs. “wise compassion” (14:51)
- The power of self-compassion + accountability (16:59)
- Lori’s unique background (TV, medical school, journalism, therapy) and how it all centers around stories and the human condition (19:40)
- Why people don’t change when they know they need to change (24:16)
- The five stages of change (26:12)
- Facing your own mortality (28:18)
- What she’s learned about forgiveness from her years as a therapist (32:18)
- The misconception that therapy is focused on the past when it’s really focused on the present (33:53)
- How to deliver “loving truth bombs” (35:13)
- Having the vulnerability to put herself out there (37:57)
- Lori’s upcoming projects including a TV series and podcast (41:57)
Resources / People Mentioned
- Maybe You Should Talk To Someone by Lori Gottlieb
- Dear Therapist – The Atlantic
- TED Talk: How changing your story can change your life
- Friends, TV show
- ER, TV show
- Eva Longoria, actress
- The Americans, TV show
- Dear Therapists (podcast- coming soon!)
- Guy Winch, therapist
- Katie Couric, journalist
- Olive, Again by Elizabeth Strout
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